“Those hideout sessions tell us that, paradoxically, the best way to act out of character is to stay as true to yourself as you possibly can—starting by creating as many “restorative niches” as possible in your daily life.” “In a sense, McAdams has breathed new life into one of the great insights of Western mythology:… Continue reading Quiet by Susan Cain
Category: realizations
The Career Within You by Elizabeth Wagele and Ingrid Stabb
ROMANTICS (#1) As a Romantic, your rich interior life of thoughts and feelings contributes wisdom and meaning to others’ worlds. You may feel a certain melancholy, but you also have a vision of how to make life more significant and elegant. Since you value authenticity, you express your moods honestly, whether they are sad, mad,… Continue reading The Career Within You by Elizabeth Wagele and Ingrid Stabb
Outer Order, Inner Calm by Gretchen Rubin
Our rooms shape our thoughts, and our possessions change our moods. It can be challenging to influence our thoughts and actions directly; by improving the state of our surroundings, we can improve our state of mind. Because our minds feed on the experience of our five senses, pleasing our senses raises our spirits. Thoughts That… Continue reading Outer Order, Inner Calm by Gretchen Rubin
Five Perfect Quotes
“Each obligation on its own seemed laughably easy. It was the sheer volume that threatened to bury her.” “She was all-powerful when she knew without doubt that she was in the right. But how often did you know for sure that you were right? Hardly ever.” “The three of them laughed that self-satisfied middle-aged-woman laugh… Continue reading Five Perfect Quotes
Letting People In
“Oh well. There was no way we weren’t going to entertain, including inviting people we barely knew (which, in the beginning, meant most of the time). Sometimes it takes guts, but I stand firm by the conviction that if we want friends in life then we have to be prepared to let people see our… Continue reading Letting People In
At 40
“It’s strange, to not be the youngest kind of adult anymore.” – Writers & Lovers: A Novel by Lily King
Never To Fit
“I had tried in different ways over the years to fit. I thought I could discipline my body and later my manners to take up less room.” – Thick by Tressie McMillan Cottom
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One of the skills I’ve acquired since turning 40 is the ability to recognize there will likely always be a gap between seeing a photo of myself and appreciating it. That gap, I’ve realized, is the time it takes me to overcome all the ways I’ve been taught to value myself in the world. The… Continue reading Untitled